Words of Self Compassion in motherhood might sound like…
Many of us know that the words we use inside our heads (towards ourselves) often are in direct opposition to the kinds of words we would love to be able to direct towards our children. The problem is how hard it is to continue to authentically offer that warmth, compassion, wisdom to others when internally we are often screaming/swearing at ourselves, or putting big angry stories around what it means to have hard times.
I know you’ll have umpteen examples of this but it can look like:
’No one is here for me, how is it possible that Im doing this on my own ’
’ARGH!! Why is this so f%#*ing hard ?!’
’Seriously? WHERE did I go wrong ?! Everyone else can (insert behaviour here - keep a clean house, get ready on time, get their baby to sleep through the night, make delicious nutritious meals that their children devour… etc etc)’
When our inner critic is loud it often moves us away from connection and in to ‘power over’ strategies or control - over our kids or our environment or whatever we can get our hands on.
It’s inflexible, and rigid. It doesn’t feel very nice and builds up cortisol in our bodies.
And we often don’t have an idea of where to even start with speaking more lovingly to ourselves, or we think it will make us weak if we do.
Self compassion comforts you and makes you strong, even if that means you shed a tear while moving forward. That is STRENGTH, truth, and courage.
I wonder if any of these examples, if you said them with warmth and in a comforting tone of voice, will offer some compassionate motivation for you today in whatever you need to achieve?
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